Dating is no longer what it was in the past. And by past, this does not necessarily mean a century ago
Even looking at the present day dating scene with what it was 20 years ago can show exactly how considerably society has evolved. There are a lot of reasons for this with the main being the ever changing human culture and the realities of day to day living.
Existence has turned out to be very frantic and people increasingly have less time than they would have had before to go for several and long dates so as to get to know someone. Add to that the innate wall that many people build all around themselves after being in one-too-many unsuccessful relationships and you can see that the dating scene is not for the fainthearted. And if regular dating is complicated, then it can be even more daunting for the unmarried mum.
If you are a single mum – and if the person you are dating shows any signs of not liking children or totally disinterested in them – then don’t waste your time with further dates and try to win him over. Also be aware that some people may show lots of enthusiasm – just to win you over! good old gut feelings and common sense is needed.
But there are a few things that the single mum needs to familiarize with and equip themselves for if they choose to find love online – such as dating sites and dinner dating events. Dinner dating is far more sophisticated and occurs at a more gentle pace. There are a number of ideas that the single mum should adhere to when venturing into dating sites and speed dating meetings.
Have a positive mind-set – You may have heard of or known people in which have had a bad experience on a dating site. But be careful not to pass judgment on all dating sites and all the people really searching for love on these types of websites.
As long as you perform the essential due diligence before you become a member of a specific dating site or getting in touch with some one that you think matches the features you are looking for, you ought to be fine. Keep a positive attitude that there is someone out there that will not mind that you already have one or more children from a past partnership and that they will love you and your kids just as you are.
Be warm and welcoming-
This does not however necessarily mean that you smile even when someone is being rude or obnoxious to you. Be pleasant but firm with the people you meet. In this way you will obtain respect and still be approachable. Learn to initiate and keep conversations going as this will instantly draw people to you and make you stand out during a Dinner Dating event. Make eye contact.
Presentation – Presentation is important when you are speed dating.
Many men have an image of a single mum as a woman who is disheveled and frumpy. You don’t have to go looking like a super model, but you should take some care to look nice. Also – be mindful that Some men may assume that you are desperate and lonely or that you are trying to find a father figure for your chidren. Therefore it is crucial that you come across as being strong and independant.
Remember to stick to these few tips when you are on your first date and you will be on your way to having a great night.